Wedding traditions, history and wedding rings
The first marriage
From the time of Adam and Eve, the relationship between a man and a woman has been unique and ordained by God. Eve was created for Adam to fulfill his need for companionship. Our earliest records of history depict the unification of a man and a woman and their respect for a higher being.
More famous today as the bachelor party, this celebration for the groom's honor was originally called bachelor dinner, or bachelor party. Like many other wedding traditions, they have adapted over time. It first came about the fifth century, in Sparta, where military comrades would party and toast to each other on the threshold of a friend's wedding. Even today, the bachelor party usually takes place quite close to the actual wedding, as it has become known as the groom's last taste of freedom. Despite ekivok entertainment that is associated with stag parties today, bachelor parties have not always led to this controversial feature. Even messy and loud, stag parties are traditionally arranged to give the groom and participants to the wedding to release some fears before the big day.
The wedding party
During the era of "marriage by separation", close friends of the groom helped him when he kidnapped the bride from her family. The first legal officers and best men were more like a small army, they would fight against the bride's angry relatives while the groom rode away with her.
Bridesmaids and hoof frogs became more common when weddings were planned. For several days before marriage, an experienced woman visited the prospective bride. This woman or mistress of honor, as we know her today, makes sure that the bride and groom were made and helped the bride to dress. All bridesmaids helped the bride to decorate for the wedding party.
For a long time, bridesmaids had dresses much like the bride's dress, while attorneys were dressed in clothes that resembled the groom's attire. This tradition began to protect itself against evil instead of uniformity, if evil spirits or jealous men attempted to harm the newlyweds, they would be confused about which two people were the bride and groom.
Before using the flowers in the bridal bouquet, women used aromatic clumps of garlic, herbs, and kernels to expel evil spirits as they went down the aisle. Over time, these have been replaced with flowers that symbolize fertility and eternal love. Specific flowers have special meanings in many cultures.
The wedding is one of life's ancient and surprisingly unchanged rites. Almost all customs that we see today are just echoes from the past. Everything from veil, rice, flowers and old shoes, brides and walks, at one time, bore a very specific and extremely significant meaning. Today, although the original topics are often lost, we incorporate old customs into our weddings because they are traditional and ritual.
The customs of older marriages continue to thrive today, in dilute, disguised and often upgraded forms. The manners we remember today were once "brand new" ideas. Although historical accuracy is difficult to achieve, the historical weight associated with ancient customs of ancient weddings and traditions is enormous. When reading through these pages, please use them, re-interpret or omit them in your own wedding.
Remember, when planning for your wedding, creating new traditions and customs that can be inherited to your children and their children.
Many centuries ago, before women's rights, men who had chosen a wife often brought her (or kidnapped) her if her family did not like him. The tradition of a "bestman" probably originated in the Germanic Goths, as it was customary to marry a woman in her own society. When the women became a scarce commodity "local", bachelors used to seek out and capture a bride from a nearby community. This was not an operation for a person, so in the future the groom would be accompanied by a male companion who would help him. Our sed's bestman is a return to two men, heavily armed, for of course the future groom would choose only the best man he knew for such an important task.
The role of "bestman" was developed in 200 AD. His task was still more than just protecting the ring. If the bride's family threatened to take her back with violence, the Bestman's job was to stand by the groom's side throughout the wedding, alert and armed. He continued his office after the ceremony by standing guard as a sentry outside the newlyweds home. Much of this is German folklore. Data suggests that under the altar of many churches there was an arsenal of clubs, knives and spears. The indication is that these were there to protect the groom from any attack by the bride's family in an attempt to reclaim her.
Traditionally, the bride is to the left of the groom. It was much more than meaningless label. Among the northern European barbarians, a groom left his caught bride to the left of him to protect her, as he kept his right hand free to use for the defense. In addition, it derives from this practice of abduction, which literally swept a bride off her feet, the latter symbolic act ran to carry the bride across the threshold of her new home. It may well be that even the honeymoon originated with this catch. It may well have been a regret for the bride's family. It was the groom's hope that when the newlyweds were back from their honeymoon, everything would be forgiven.
Up to and including the Middle Ages, weddings were considered a family / community affair. The only thing that was needed to create a marriage was for both parties to express their consent to take each other as spouses. Witnesses were not always necessary, nor was the presence of the priesthood.
In Italy, for example, the connection was divided into three parts.
The first part consisted of the relatives of the groom and the bride's family preparing the documents of the marriage. The bride and groom didn't even have to be there for it.
The other, the engagement, was legally binding and could or could not have meant perfection. On this occasion, the couple exchanged gifts (a ring, a piece of fruit, etc), snapped their hands and exchanged a kiss. The "promises" could be as simple as, "Do you want to marry me?" "Yes I want to." And thus the symbol of wedding rings.
The third part was the wedding, which could happen several years after the engagement, the move of the bride to the groom's home.
The role of the clergy at a medieval wedding was simply to bless the couple. In the latter part of the Middle Ages, the wedding moved from the bride's house to the church. It started with a walk to the church from the bride's house. Promises were exchanged outside the church and after the fair, the procession went back to the bride's house for a party. Musicians followed the procession.